(in)security

So, I’ve waited quite a while before making this post. (They say that you should count to ten before reacting. I lost count after 1834 and was still angry…)

insecurityLet me preface this post by saying that I’ve been to shows with heavy security (Maiden at the ACC) and shows with negative security out in bum-fuck-nowhere (Tweed-fest) I prefer higher security in general. (Being a lady [and a non-“smoker”], my preference is slightly different from many of my male metal buddies.)

The way I see the security is as follows:
1) Everyone gets away with everything.
or
2) No one gets away with anything.
or
3) Something somewhere between 1 and 2

Along this sliding scale, everyone has their preference, but everyone understands and will deal with any level they are shown.

Recently, I came to understand that a particular club didn’t fit into this sliding scale. (Please excuse the lack of specifics, since I’m not interested in getting sued.)

The security at this club is terrified of the big dudes so they won’t stop these guys from assaulting other patrons with weapons. ‘But wait!’ you exclaim, ‘you said that you frequent lawless shows.’ Ah! How observant you are! Shows with lax security are one thing, but let me continue…

The security (I assume) feels a bit emasculated from the terror they feel from the big dudes, so they enforce the rules on the little people. Please allow me to describe an example. One night, the security cut me off because my “swaying” (aka belly dance that I was demonstrating to my girlfriend) while the large man who was drunkenly vomiting on their property was left alone. (My hubby recently described a scene where a Large Drunk Man was throwing beer at the band on stage. He threw 3 beers before he lost interest. Security didn’t stop his assult, nor did they stop him from buying the beer that he threw.)

I decided to have a word with management.

I spoke initially with the person in charge (I have begun to doubt the validity of her claim to this status.) She expressed her company’s Serious Stance on weapons in their club. My previous experience with her security team proved this statement to be false. (security saw a large man with a weapon, but failed to act upon this threat despite numerous patron complaints about the man with the weapon.) At this point the head of security returned to the club (with the owner who quickly slunk away before I was able to confront him about the state of his establishment.)

When the head of security finally identified himself, I explained my concerns about my safety in his club directly to him. After a rather heated discussion (the next day, a friend texted me to ask why I was yelling at a security guard), the conclusion that was reached was that I should leave the club because he (the head of security) had no interest in increasing the safety of his clientele. In fact, the “person in charge” and some random other lady (the door girl, I think) snickered when I mentioned that I only entered their venue because I have some knowledge of self-defense.

In the end, I followed the head of security‘s advice: just don’t go to the club. (His actual words [to my complaint of feeling unsafe in his club] were: “then grab your coat and leave.”)

I will no longer enter this club. (at least until my Muay Thai sparring improves significantly.)

This really sucks because many great bands play this venue, but I really don’t want to be harassed by other patrons+security.

Here is my main point of this post: (x2 for the ladies)

Watch your back.
Don’t trust security to protect you. These people are employed to protect the financial interests of their bosses, they have no interest in keeping you safe. Please make sure that you have good friends around.

LADIES…
Please learn to defend yourselves. Every city has a gym or club that offers self-defense classes. Consider these lessons invaluable. Seriously, do it. No price is too high.

Please bring a friend to the ladies’ room.

Please know which friends will help you if you are in trouble (who will risk a broken nose to get a jerk off of you).

Seriously… you are ON YOUR OWN. You cannot expect security to protect you.

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